In the Light

Ah, freedom.  Freedom from the chains of despair.  Entering the light at the end of the tunnel can sometimes be a long road, and usually requires much work.  As we receive the light, it illuminates the light we already have inside us.  This helps us in moments of darkness in the future, but that darkness will be temporary, as we now know we can trust the Love we have in ourselves to get us through it.

We need to remember that the darkness was there for a reason,  it provided us with contrast.  It shows us how strong we really are and helps to learn how truly worthy we are.  We get to choose light over darkness...we realize we didn't have to be stuck anymore.  I am thankful for my time in my tunnel; as I look back I see how much I've accomplished and that helps me love my life even more.


Being in the light is so liberating.  It feels as though we have entered a whole new world.  The sun shines everyday, the sky is blue, the birds sing the sweetest songs. Our bodies and our hearts feel as though they have been touched by the Divine (because they have). We no longer feel trapped, scared and alone, but free, safe and loved.  Yes, it can feel scary at first, but we need to trust in ourselves.  Trust the work we have done to get here.  Trust that we can choose to hold on to this innate joy we have found.

It is time to get out there and do all of the fun things we didn't have the desire to do before.  Be in nature, go see a funny movie, dance, sing, run, play, and be around friends who lift us up even more.  We get to do all of the fun things we enjoyed long ago; so we should do them...NOW. 

Doing things that make us happy, being around people who make us happy is so so so good for us.  It keeps our light shining, just as it should.

So if you are still in the tunnel, continue that stride toward the light of joy, and do everything you can to maintain that light once you have been graced with it's presence.  If you have reached the light go, be free...live a life of pure LOVE.

Did I mention how so very good it feels?  Because, really...it is amazing. :)

Love and Blessings to you!

Perfection...why do we do it to ourselves?

Every mother that I know, myself included (because I know myself), strive for perfection in everything we do.  For the SAHM it is having a clean house, happy, well-adjusted children, cooking every meal from scratch, cloth diapering, crafts for the home, DIY everything, time, love and support for our husbands, and lots of love and attention for our kids to name a few.  For the working mother it is all of the above, plus excelling in our careers.  And for all of us in addition to that list is time for ourselves, time with girlfriends, and well, let’s be honest…sex.  So, when do we sleep?

We research and ask around to make sure we are doing everything right, reading books, blogs and articles written by the “experts”.  Constantly questioning ourselves, and making slight if not huge changes to what we are already doing.  We make ourselves crazy striving for perfection.  We tell ourselves that our kids are perfect (which is true), and that we have to make everything perfect for them (which is true, we just need to adjust our definition of perfect).  How about perfection being that we do our very best every single day?  When we make a “mistake” (handle a situation in a way that we told ourselves we wouldn’t), we can tell ourselves that tomorrow is a new day, the next challenge a new moment to do better.  And instead of beating ourselves up with guilt, we think about what lead us to handle the situation in a less than ideal way.  What do we need to do differently for ourselves?  Maybe instead of staying up late researching or pinning, we can go to bed sooner, to get more rest which inevitably gives us more patience.

We could set aside at least 15 minutes every day to do something for ourselves, something we really enjoy.  And, yes we do enjoy taking care of our children, but I’m talking about something for us.  We can afford to be selfish for a mere 15 minutes per day.  (Although, I think it should be closer to a whole hour each day, but that isn’t always feasible…but when it is…seize the day!)

We could maybe get up earlier to have some time to meditate, do yoga, exercise, or just sit in the quiet.  We could schedule time for ourselves each week to get out of the house ALONE for 30 minutes to an hour.  We could schedule much needed time with girlfriends once per month. 
We could join a mom’s group where we feel supported and accepted.  We need this, our kids and our husbands need for us to do it. 

It all comes down to knowing that in each moment we have, there is perfection in it.  We can shift our thinking about any situation.  We mess up; we can do better next time.  We learn from every experience we have.  Our kids teach us so much; we just have to pay attention.  Here is an example:  I’m rounding up my twin boys for diaper changes so we can get ready to leave the house.  We have less than 2 hours until nap time, so we need to get moving as our errands will take at least an hour and then we have lunch and play, then nap…and of course, I’m running a bit behind.  So I get Sweet Pea cooperating, however, Love Bug is running away from me (so frustrating!), well when I go after him, he is laughing hysterically because in his mind we’re playing a chasing game.  Sweet Pea hears the laughter and comes running in, also laughing.  Now I’m thinking, great, now I have to get both of them back into their room! I’m so irritated for the seconds it takes me get to Love Bug, then I see his adorable giggly self, and I really see him and I can’t help but smile and laugh (partly at myself for being such a grump).  I finally see this moment for what it is; my incredibly smart boys are teaching me.  This moment is a reminder to slow down, that schedules can be shifted, and to remember to have fun in everything we do.  Simply rounding up our children to leave the house can turn into a game and not put you too far off schedule if done right…and even if it does…how bad can that really be?

Back at it...

Oh my goodness, it has been a while since I have posted on here.  I am posting this here to help me stick to my word.  I will be posting more frequently now.  I love to write, I have so much in my head I want to say...so I will say it here.  I am working on a few posts now and hope to have them posted within one week.  Maybe even another blog specific to being a Mommy. :) This believing in yourself thing can be challenging at times, and has held me back in the past...I won't let that happen anymore.  I mean duh, I should read my 'Go for it!!!' blog post everyday. 

Love, Light and Blessings to you ALL!!